“Therefore I write these things being absent, lest being present I should use sharpness, according to the power which the Lord hath given me to edification, and not to destruction.” 2 Corinthians 13:10 (KJV)
A lot of times as a pastor, preacher of the gospel there will be times things within the Church, the local congregation you lead with strike up a hot response in your heart. There are things that go on sometimes that ought to make us angry. We see a family angry at another family; one member mad with another member; and they are casting insults at one another. Maybe one member maligning another when the other being maligned is not guilty of much, or anything that is being charged. It could be a member you know is in personal sin. These things should cause some anger, with self-control [temperance] from the pastor, preacher.
In the above verse Paul has expressed that he should use “Sharpness” or “Severe reproofs and censures… the exercise of the apostolic rod” (John Gill Commentary e-Sword). You will note his words though “To edification”. It should never be the intent of correction, reproof, rebuke to destroy; but to always edify. To build up takes more effort than tearing down. Sometimes tearing down is necessary, but the ultimate end is for “Edification”