Every parent has entered parenthood completely inexperienced. O how we can mess things up. We make many mistakes. I am so thankful that God has given us a manual for raising children. It is called the Bible; but it is so much more than a manual for raising children.
The book Proverbs is of a father instructing his son in the way of life and living in wisdom and knowledge. So many times we neglect the teaching of children in the way of God, and give them many instructions, and disciplines for finances, marriage, and making a living. If we teach them discipline in the things of God, then they can better learn to discipline themselves in those other matters.
“My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of His correction: for whom the LORD loveth He correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth.” Proverbs 3:11-12 (KJV)
I have heard parents say, “I want to be a friend to my child”, and I guess they suppose that being a friend to their child will cause that child to love them more. First you were given a child to be their parent, their teacher, their leader, their commanding officer; you get the point.
Sometimes you need to give an erring child a good warm butt-warming as a loving parent.
“He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” Proverbs 13:24
You are not loving your child by overlooking their rebellion, their bad language, or their rudeness and disobedience to you or any who are in authority. Being a loving parent means you will teach them respect for yourself, and others in places of authority.
We also need to realize as adults that we ourselves are under authority, and must be respectful to the authorities. If we are not we will pay the consequences for it. Disrespect will gain us chastening, some form of discipline such as a speeding ticket, a fine for not wearing a seat belt; or for something more serious maybe time in jail or prison.
As a Christian we should appreciate the chastening of the LORD. It is because He loves us that He chastens us. His discipline shows us, and is proof that He loves us. It shows that He has the best plan for our life, and that He will get us to the place He wants us. Let me remind you of the letter to the Hebrews words…
“For whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom He receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but He for our profit, that we might be partakers of His holiness. Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.” Hebrews 12:6-11
Through the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ believe on Him today and become a regenerated child of God.